Sunday, May 09, 2021

Staying Connected

Staying Connected

John 15:9-17[1]

Love always leaves its mark on us.[2] It just goes with the territory. No matter whom or what we may love, it leaves its mark. Whether it’s grandparents or parents, brothers or sisters, children or grand­children, friends or neighbors, our love for them changes our lives. We do all kinds of things for those we love that we might not do otherwise. Of course, we don’t practice our love perfectly. Fortunately, we don’t have to practice love perfectly for it to make a difference. Even our fallible love has a way of defining the character of our lives. More than that, it often dictates how we spend our time in the routines of the day. Love always leaves its mark on us.

Last week we saw that Jesus used the metaphor of a vine and branches to portray our relationship with him. Like branches on a grapevine, we  will “bear much fruit” as we “abide” in him. I must confess that I’ve always found this language confusing. How do we in this day and age abide in Jesus who lived so long ago? We believe that the Risen Lord is constantly present in all of our lives. And we believe that we can still have a relationship with him. Last week we talked about “abiding” in Jesus in terms of remaining “connected” to him. But again, I think it can be a mystery to us just exactly how we’re supposed to do this. The question lingers in our minds, “How do I stay connected to Jesus?”

Most of the answers to this question throughout the ages have focused on spiritual practices. We stay connected to Jesus through prayer. Or we stay connected to him by regularly reading the Bible. Some have gone deeper and viewed this as a mystical relationship, involving some kind of contemplation or meditation. While all of these practices can be helpful to us, I must confess that I have always felt that there was something missing. It all just seemed too detached from the way we actually live our daily lives. And I think staying connected to Jesus is meant to be something that leaves its mark on how we live our lives every day.

I would say that our lesson for today actually provides us with a very practical, down-to-earth kind of answer to this question. We stay connected to Jesus by following his example in our daily living. That may sound too “easy” but in practice it’s not! I think it starts with our relationship with God. Jesus says: “As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my command­ments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love” (Jn 15:9-10). Now, the language of John’s Gospel can come across as kind of convoluted at times, but I think what Jesus is saying is that everything he did was motivated by God’s love. Because he knew God’s love, he devoted his entire life to carrying out what God wanted him to do. I think that’s where it starts for us as well. We can commit our lives to following Jesus’ example because we also know God’s love for us.

The next step is to figure out what it looks like to follow Jesus’ example in our daily lives. Again, Jesus says, “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” That seems straightforward enough. If we want to stay connected to Jesus, we will obey his command to love others.[3] But there’s more to it here. Jesus says, “No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (Jn. 15:13). That’s the way Jesus loved us; and if we stay connected to Jesus it will mean that we love others by laying down our lives for them. That’s how love works—when we know that we are loved, we demonstrate it in our daily lives by sharing that love with others.

I think Jesus is talking about transforming our whole relationship with God. In one way, Jesus sums up all that it means to stay connected to him in terms of being his “friends.” I think it’s important to notice that he’s not talking about his being our friend, but rather he’s talking about what it looks like for us to be his friends. Jesus says, “You are my friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:14). Jesus made us his friends by laying down his life for us. And we stay connected to him by doing the same thing: we make others our friends by laying down our lives for them.[4] That might not change the way they relate to us, but it will most definitely change the way we relate to them.[5]

I think Jesus’ point here is that if we decide we’re going to live our lives by staying connected to him, then his love will leave its mark on our lives. When we truly experience the love of Jesus it will work its way into every aspect of life. And that means that we will practice the same kind of love he showed us toward one another, and beyond that toward all people. We’re not talking about how we feel towards others.[6] Staying connected to Jesus is about a commitment to follow his example by loving others enough to lay down our lives for them.[7]

To me, this is the point of John 15: Jesus is calling us all to respond to the love we have received by sharing that love with others. I’ll be the first one to admit this is a tall order. I think we have to acknowledge that none of us will be able to do this perfectly. But this call is perhaps one of the most challenging ones in the Bible. It’s not something you can do “in your spare time.” It will require us to devote much more of our time and energy if we determine to “stay connected” to Jesus by going out and becoming “friends” with those around us and laying down our lives for them.



[1]© 2021 Alan Brehm. A sermon delivered by Rev. Alan Brehm, Ph. D. on 5/9/2021 for Hickman Presbyterian Church, Hickman, NE.

[2] C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves, 121, “to love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.”

[3] Cf. the Heidelberg Catechism of 1562, which defines loving your neighbor as yourself in terms of being “patient, peace-loving, gentle, merciful and friendly” to all, even your enemies (cf. The Book of Confession, 2016, p. 65)!

[4] See especially Jürgen Moltmann, The Church in the Power of the Spirit, 114-121, where he construes the Christian life based on the  “friendship” which Jesus models and we are called to emulate.

[5] Cf. Jürgen Moltmann, Ethics of Hope, 202: “We are not the enemies of our enemies; we are ‘the children of our Father in heaven’, ... . If we do not react to enmity with enmity, we creatively make it possible for our enemies to turn away from their enmity and to enter into the life we share.”

[6] Cf. Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu, Made for Goodness: And Why This Makes All the Difference, 25: “Perfect love is not an emotion; it is not how we feel. It is what we do. Perfect love is action that is not wrapped up in self-regard, and it has no concern with deserving. Instead, perfect love is love poured out. It is self-offering made out of the joy of giving. It requires no prompting. It seeks no response and no reward.”

[7] Cf. Jürgen Moltmann, The Spirit of Life, 255: Love means combining, “respect for the other person’s freedom” to be an individual “with deep affection for him or her as a person.”

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