Soft Hearts
Psalm 95[1]
We
live in a world where it can be risky to have a soft heart. People with soft hearts often get their
hearts broken, or trampled on, or pierced with betrayal. Most of us learn to harden our hearts early
on, even in grade school. If you don’t,
it’s too easy for your feelings to get hurt by the taunts of your
schoolmates. And as adults, we assume
that we can’t open up and really be honest about what we think and feel. If we do, somebody’s sure to come along and
shoot us down. So we keep our mouths
shut and we close off our hearts. It
seems the only way to survive this world is to harden your heart against the
slings and barbs that it throws at you.
But
hard hearts tend to fossilize over time.
They get harder and harder, until it seems impossible for anyone or
anything to get through. Hard hearts
will have nothing to do with the sweeping changes the Spirit wants to bring in
order to give us new life. When our
hearts are hard, we close off to protect ourselves from having to admit that we
may be in the wrong, or we may need to change.[2] Hard hearts are hearts that are defensive and
defended, closed to those around us, closed even to the life-giving presence of
God.
One
of the themes that gets repeated over and over in the story of Israel’s history
is that their hearts were hard. The
prophets continually rebuked the people for being hard-hearted in their willful
disobedience to God and in their continually going their own way.[3] The prophets repeatedly called the people to
open their hearts to God and return to him.[4]
It seems to me that in order to do that, you have to admit that you’re going
the wrong way and soften your heart to what God is trying to do in your life.
The
Psalmist was reflecting on this aspect of Israel’s experience in our lesson for
today. He was particularly talking about
the wilderness wanderings, when the people complained seemingly incessantly
about Moses and about God. They didn’t like
being in the wilderness, and they made it clear every chance they got! They weren’t happy with the way things were
going in their lives, and they rarely missed a chance to blame God, or Moses,
or both. Unfortunately, it would seem
that it never even occurred to them that the root of their bitterness was
within themselves, not in someone else.
They simply quarreled with Moses and “tested” God (Exod. 17:2, 3). The question at the center of their quarrel
was significant: “Is the Lord among us or not? (Exod. 17:7).[5]
I
would offer the suggestion that they were not the first, and certainly not the
last, to “test” God. The Psalmist
defines it as demanding that God prove himself to be trustworthy (Ps. 95:9).[6] Ironically, there are numerous stories where
individuals asked God for a sign or for an answer using various “tests.” But it would seem that there’s a difference
between trying to discern our direction and demanding that God give us
assurances that we will get out of life whatever it is that we want. One of the problems with that approach to
faith is that you can never get enough proof.
You always need one more test to be sure you can “really” trust God.
The
Psalmist says that the people responded to God in this way because they had
“hardened” their hearts (Ps. 95:8). They
had closed themselves off in such a way that faith was essentially
impossible. And so the Psalmist,
speaking to later generations, warns them (and us) to avoid hardened
hearts. How then do we follow this
warning? Well, it seems to me that it
starts where the Psalmist does. He calls
to all those who would hear, saying “ O come, let us worship and bow down, let
us kneel before the LORD, our Maker! For
he is our God, and we are the people of his pasture, and the sheep of his hand”
(Ps. 95:6-7). It seems to me that the place where we begin to soften our hearts
so that we may “listen to his voice” (Ps. 95:7) is when we’re able to humble
ourselves enough to kneel before our Maker.[7]
That
kind of humility doesn’t come easily for those of us who have been schooled in
a dog-eat-dog world. And yet, over and
over again, the Scriptures call us to soften our hearts so that we can open
them to the life-giving presence of God.
And over and over again, the way the Scriptures instruct us to begin is
by humbling ourselves.[8] We have to humble ourselves to recognize with
St. Paul that we were “weak” and “ungodly” when Christ died for us (Rom. 5:6).[9] It took humility for the woman at the well to
admit to Jesus that “I have no husband,” (Jn. 4:17)![10] And it takes humility for us to open our
hearts to God.
That kind of humility is
difficult for most of us. But it truly
is the first step toward softening our hearts.
When we can let down some of our defenses, and soften our hearts, then
maybe we can open ourselves enough to listen, really listen to God’s voice.[11] That’s what it takes for us to experience the
kind of change Jesus was talking about with Nicodemus. That’s what it takes for us to experience the
new life of the Spirit that God wants to give us. The call to faith is a call to humility, a
call to soften our hearts and open them up enough to receive the grace and the
love that God wants to pour into our hearts in such quantity that it becomes
like “a spring of water gushing up to eternal life” (Jn. 4:14).
[1] ©
2014 Alan Brehm. A sermon delivered by
Rev. Dr. Alan Brehm on 3/23/2014 at First Presbyterian Church of Dickinson, TX.
[2]
Cf. Richard Rohr, Breathing Under Water:
The Spirituality of the Twelve Steps, xix: “Grace is always a humiliation
for the ego, it seems.”
[3]
Cf. Isaiah 46:12; Jeremiah 5:23; 9:26; Ezekiel 3:7.
[4]
Cf. Jeremiah 24:7; 29:13; 32:39; Ezekiel 11:19; 18:31; 36:26; Joel 2:12.
[5]
Cf. J. I. Durham, Exodus, 231: “the
dissatisfied people put Yahweh (and Moses) to the test by their complaining, a
complaining which posed the unbelievable question, ‘Is Yahweh present with us,
or not?’ The scandal of this question of course is that their release and their
freedom, their rescue at the sea, their guidance through and sustenance in the
wilderness, and their very presence at Rephidim all answered such an inquiry in
pointed and unmistakable events.”
[6]
Cf. James L. Mays, Psalms, 307:
“Putting God to the test is a self-centered demand for signs and wonders ...,
as though the signs and wonders of God’s creation and salvation were not enough
reason to trust him, and him alone.”
[7]
Cf. J. Clinton McCann, “The Book of Psalms,” New Interpreters Bible IV:1063, where he emphasizes that the Psalm
is about the proclamation of God’s reign,
In that context, “God does not coerce obedience; God invites
obedience.” He continues, “The
proclamation of God’s reign calls for a decision” and that decision is made in
the context of worship: “In worship, we profess who is sovereign, and we
actualize today the reality of God’s claim upon us. ... Worship really is a
‘service’ in the sense that we act out our servanthood, our submission to the
God whom we profess rules the world and our lives.”
[8]
Cf. Exodus 10:3; 2 Chronicles 7:14; Psalm 25:9; Isaiah 57:15; 66:2; Matthew
18:4; 23:12; James 4:10; 1 Peter 5:6; cf. also Jürgen Moltmann, The Source of Life: The Holy Spirit and the
Theology of Life, 127-130, where he contrasts kneeling in prayer as a
subservient position with the position of standing with arms held up, hands
open, and heads held high as an expression of the freedom believers receive in
the Spirit.
[9]
Cf. Karl Barth, Church Dogmatics
4.2:771-772. He says (p. 772), “If [God]
loves [man] because he is sinful, being moved to compassion by the fact that He
finds him in this weakness, godlessness and hostility, this carries with it the
fact that He wills to free him from the necessity of being a sinner.” He continues, “The sin of the one loved by [God]
is a stain which cannot stand against the fact that God loves him and gives
Himself for him, but must yield and perish. It is the work of the love of God
to cause this stain to yield. This is why we call it the purifying love of God.”
[10] I
think this is true because she may have been saying that five different men had
married her and then rejected her. Among
NT commentators, it is common to point out that the woman’s five marriages was
evidence of her immorality. Only Gail R.
O’Day, “The Gospel of John,” New
Interpreters Bible IX:567, challenges this. She points out (p. 571-72) that
the woman is not portrayed as a sinner in this passage, but as a witness! She
suggests it’s possible that the woman had been “trapped in the custom of
levirate marriage ... and the last male in the family line has refused to marry
her.” Either way, it would take humility
on her part to say, “I have no husband”!
[11]
Cf. Rohr, Breathing Under Water, 12:
“I think your heart needs to be broken, and broken open, at least once to have
a heart at all or a heart for others.”